You can only learn from a mistake after you ____31____ you’ve made it. As soon as you start blaming other people (or the universe itself) you distance yourself ____32____ any possible lesson. But if you courageously stand up and honestly say “This is my mistake and I am responsible” the possibilities for learning will move towards you. Admission of a mistake, even if only privately to yourself, makes learning ____33____ by moving the focus away from blame assignment and towards understanding.This advice ____34____ counter to the cultural assumptions we have about mistakes and failure, namely that they are ____35____ things. We’re taught in school, in our families, or at work to feel guilty about failure and to do whatever we can to ____36____ mistakes. This sense of shame explains why many people give up on their goals: they’re not ____37____ for the mistakes and failures What’s missing in many people’s beliefs about success is the fact that the more ____38____ the goal, the more frequent and difficult setbacks will be. The larger your ambitions, the more dependent you will be on your ability to overcome and learn from your mistakes.But for many reasons admitting mistakes is difficult. An implied value in many cultures is that our work represents us: if you fail a test, then you are a ____39____ . If you make a mistake then you are a mistake. Learning from mistakes requires three things: putting yourself in situations where you can make interesting mistakes; having the self-confidence to admit to them; being ____40____ about making changes.