less justly,thattheir parents are out of touch with modern ways;that they are possessive anddominant;that they do not trust their children to deal with crisis;that theytalk too
much about certainproblems;and that they have no sense of humor,at least in parent-hildrelationships.
I think it is truethat parents often underestimate their teenage children and also forget howthey themselves felt when young.
Young people oftenirritate their parents with their choices in clothes and hairstyles,inentertainments and music.This is not their motive.They feel cut off from theadult world
into which they havenot yet been accepted.So they create a culture and society of their own.Then,ifit turns out that their music or entertainments or vocabulary or clothes or
hairstyles irritatetheir parents,this gives them additional enjoyment. They feel they aresuperior,at least in a small way,and that they are leaders in style and taste.
Sometimes you areresistant and proud because you do not want your parents to approve of what youdo.If they did approve,it looks as if you are betraying your own age
group.But in thatcase, you are assuming that you are the underdog:you can't win but at least youcan keep your honor. This is a passive way of looking at things.It is natural
enough after longyears of childhood,when you were completely under your parents' control. But itig而res the fact that youare now beginning to be responsible for yourself.
If you plan tocontrol your life,cooperation can be part of that plan.You can charmothers,especially your parents,into doing things the way you want.You canimpress others
with your sense ofresponsibility and initiative,so that they will give you the authority to dowhat you want to do.
A.have been acceptedinto the adult world
B.feel that they aresuperior in a small way to the adults
C.are not likely towin over the adults
D.have a strongdesire to be of independence